This one is for all the women in my life—mommas, wives, single ladies. We are all on this trip together. And we really need to remind each other to get off.
It seems like every day I either feel, see others feel, or post about how they feel this thing called “guilt.” It’s not actual guilt like they murdered someone guilt, but it is a real anxiety induced feeling all women seem to have these days. #MomGuilt #LifeGuilt #PersonalGuilt
If they want 10 minutes to themselves—guilt. If they have to stay home from work because their child is sick—guilt. Guilt for being a working momma, guilt for being a stay at home momma, guilt for telling someone no, guilt for saying yes. Geeze you get it right? What is it that we are wired this way? Is this how God meant for us to live our lives? Constantly second guessing our decisions, justifying our every move?
Let me repeat that NO. And please don’t feel like I’m preaching here, because believe me, I’m writing this for me just as much as I’m writing it for the woman who is reading this. We need to STAAAP (yes, momma Marilyn, I know this isn’t how you spell stop) –this nonsense. But most of all, we need to stop creating environments that makes the guilt appear.
We are each on our own path. We each have our own goals, destinies, and purposes in this world. In this instant success, microwave, high light reel society we live in today, it is very easy to feel like we need to play into that game of showing everyone “only our best sides” and never letting anyone see or sharing when we fault, when life is messy, when it isn’t always black and white.
And if one does, we call up our other friend, and fire away, and say, “oh my gosh did you see what she posted about” (Insert gasp)! Girls, I’m guilty! Oops, there that word is again.
No wonder we constantly feel guilt. We are setting ourselves up for failure. We subconsciously create environments that cause us to constantly feel “less than” instead of “enough of.”
So I’m writing this today, I’m not sure who for, but whoever needed to see this, needs to remember this:
Faith in God, includes faith in His timing
Romans 8:28
“We know that all things work together for the good for those who love God, who are called accordingly to his purpose”
ALL THINGS. ALL things happen for a reason. We are exactly where we are for a reason.
Instead of feeling guilt for it, just be in the moment. Be where you are while you are there. The one thing we can never get back is time. So instead of feeling guilty in it, just BE in it. Learn from it. Bask in the moments and the surroundings.
The to do lists will still be there when you’re done giving yourself those extra minutes in the shower, that ride on your horse, that workout you so desperately needed, or that night out with the girls.
Just be in the moment. Stop feeling the guilt. And just keep on your journey.
My kid just spit up so I have to go—until next time….
Xoxo,
Hannah Lou
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